Unpopular Opinion: Not Forgiving is Okay

Why are we so obsessed with forgiveness? Like, I get why the person who committed the act would want forgiveness. That goes without saying.

But so much of the attention today surrounds the “wronged party” (victim sounds a bit overdramatic in many instances) and how they should dole out forgiveness the way Oprah gave out cars.

Forgive and forget!

Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself!

Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.

To err is human; to forgive, divine.

I’m not saying we should become forgiveness hoarders, but what I don’t like is the judgement that seems to be placed on the wronged party. What if they’re still mad? What if they don’t want to forgive? Why does it say something about that individual and not about the person who did something so seemingly unforgivable?

If forgiving for you is easy, rock on with your bad (good) self. It’s not for me. It never has been.